Sunday, August 1, 2010
The counselor I spoke to after finding out what I found out about my marriage told me the reason people do what they do even if they know what they're doing is wrong is that doing what they want to do makes them feel good. That was a convoluted sentence. He was not the right counselor for me. At the beginning of our first session he held up a sign that had the word crying with a slash through it, as in NO CRYING. My marriage was ending and he didn't think I should cry?! WTF! Still, I think he was right about what motivates us to act on things we know we shouldn't, to a point. There are some things we do that don't make us feel good, yet we keep doing them. What is the motivation behind that? Stuck in a rut? Habit? Hope? Brain Chemistry? Mental Illness? Stupidity?
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I don't even know where to start with how wrong that guy was in regards to the moronic sign he held up. Doing something like that now only goes against common sense and compassion, but accepted practice. A smart, good therapist might even push you to the limit if they know you haven't grieved (bawled) enough. What he did is sooooo wrong my guess is that isn't the worst offense in his practice.
In fairness to him, his specialty is drug and alcohol counseling, maybe that works for someone with those problems. I was sort of assigned to him through our HMO. Sucked to be me. I quit going after about a month.
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