I'm invited to the wedding of my ex's nephew in July. We were married for over 31 years so it got to the point where I didn't know where my family stopped and his began, at least while we were married. After we divorced I never heard from any of his family except for one brother. It hurt my feelings but I knew it was awkward for them and they wouldn't know what to say if they did call, so I was a little surprised when I got an invitation. While I was pleased to be included I had to wonder whether they really meant to include me or if it was sent as a courtesy and without any real intention that I would actually attend.
Since I am going to be back home in Kansas at the time of the wedding anyway, and because my daughter will attend the wedding too, I checked yes on the RSVP and sent it back. Then I realized that my ex will likely attend, and wherever he is, the homewrecker won't be far behind. I have never seen them together. A wedding probably isn't the ideal place to meet up with your ex husband and the conniving bitch he left you for. Then I thought, OH! I would finally come face to face with the person who helped rip my life apart, maybe I could do a little ripping of my own. But, alas, ruining someone else's wedding would be a cruel thing to do. Besides, even though she's built like a dwarf she still out weighs me.
Now I've found out he's not going to the wedding, ostensibly because of work obligations, but I think it's really because he found out (more probable that SHE found out) that I am invited and plan to attend. I could renege on my RSVP so he'd feel more comfortable going, after all it is his family, but why should I go out of my way to placate him and Leatherneck? Why do I feel guilty? More importantly, why did I blog this story?
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There are two tenets by which I live my life.
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1. Never allow the behaviour of others to change who you are.
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2. Hatred is only a burden to the person who carries it in their heart. More than likely the "conniving bitch" is too self-absorbed to really care if you hate her.
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Go to the wedding and have the time of your life reconnecting with YOUR family of 31 years. There is a chance they are unsure of how you feel about them since the dog you married 31+ years ago has treated you so poorly. After all, HE is the one who made promises to you and broke them, not the "homewrecker" who has relieved you of having to waste anymore time on the dog that was your husband.
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Good luck, Your Majesty.
Your Majesty,
How do you turn off your emotions after 31+ years of marriage. My answer = you don't.
That woman has taken a part of your life away. Your ex is a dog but I have a feeling that you probably still have feeling for him.
So Go to the wedding. They were your family too.
I have a friend that is going through something similar. I know that if she came back, he would return to her. He misses that part of his life and all the good memories.
You're right Mzchief, the anger doesn't hurt anybody but me. It's just so hard to let go of it.
Accomplice, I wish there were an on/off switch for feelings.
You're both right, he IS a dog. I am going to the wedding and I will enjoy myself. Thanks!
Glad you're going. The family will probably be very glad to see you.
"While I was pleased to be included I had to wonder whether they really meant to include me or if it was sent as a courtesy and without any real intention that I would actually attend."
My take: You would not be invited unless you were wanted!
If it were me, I would hire the best looking escort and make them all wonder wtf is going on... dance all night and make them grovel! But that's how I roll.
I you don't want to pay an escort, invite me. I am good at snubbing everyone! But I would also make sure you didn't go home empty handed!
I'm just sayin...
DC ;)
If you don't want to pay an escort...
scotch and cigars!
please forgive me your Majesty!
Save the date, Denney - July 11.
Take Denney, he seems like a he would light up the night. HeHe
LOL He certainly does. But I thought he was married!
"You can't go back to Kansas - because that was yesterday."
- Fake [late] John Stewart
(Full disclosure: I was born in the Sunflower State)
But, there's no place like home, Fake John Stewart, and there's a witch I need to land my house on.
I'm from SW KS...you?
Your Majesty, the Leatherneck bit made me laugh out loud! Have BIG FUN in spite of them!!! =)
SE, near Coffeyville. - FJS
Ah, yes, where the Dalton Gang met their demise.
True. "They were Doolin, Doolin-Dalton, high or low, it was the same. Easy money, faithless women, red-eye whiskey for the pain"...oops, sorry, that's a song. I suppose it takes a lot of cajones, or stupidity, to try robbing TWO banks at once.
Yeah, I was up there for a cousin's wedding in '00 or '01 in the next town west, took a couple hours to tour the Dalton Defenders' museum.
My grandparents banked at Condon National Bank, and when I was a kid would send me checks for birthdays, Easter, etc. (I guess that would've been in the '60s & '70s).
So, SW Kansas, as in Liberal, Ulysses, Garden City? My folks had some friends that worked out there for Cities Service - we used to go up most Novembers or Decembers to chase ringnecks.
I was born and raised in Garden City.
Ringnecks are pheasants, right? Yes, people go there from all over for pheasant season.
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